Motherhood is one of, if not the most fulfilling role of a woman. While becoming a mother has made most women feel complete and that they have found their purpose in life, it is not uncommon for moms to also feel like they lost a part of themselves at the same time.
Identity crisis happens to almost all moms, and it is usually because:
1. Moms’ lives now revolve around their kids.
Being a mother is a full-time job; there isn’t a time of the day when your kids don’t need you. Because moms barely think of themselves now, they feel disconnected from themselves own selves.
2. Moms often forget to care about how they look.
Most moms would agree that they would rather see their kids well-dressed, groomed, and healthy than themselves. Moms put in less effort to dress up hence, they don’t feel attractive on the inside like they used to anymore.
3. Moms need to slow down.
Ambitious women who need to live at a slower pace to cater to the needs of their growing kids find it hard to adapt to a life that isn’t as “productive” as society dictates things to be. This makes moms feel insecure and unsure of themselves.
4. Moms have given up their careers.
Giving up on a career that has once fulfilled you and given you pride is not easy to deal with. It is not only their career that stay-at-home moms have lost but also the passion that was once satisfied in their jobs.
5. Moms lost the freedom they once had.
Many moms would agree to feel more like a robot completing commands rather than a human who has a will of her own. The limited freedom of a mom can make her feel like a stranger to her own self.
Moms who don’t feel like their old selves should not feel bad about it at all. Because you really aren’t your old self anymore —you are now stronger, bolder, and even more beautiful after bringing and caring for a precious life on earth. Don’t be ashamed to ask for time away from the kids to do what you love and rest whenever you need to. Taking care of yourself is the only way you can take care of your loved ones.